Wednesday, August 13, 2008

A New Blog to Read

I've been light on posting lately, but I do faithfully read a number of blogs and this -  Matt, Liz, and Madeline, is a beautiful one.

Warning: you need to start at the beginning (there's a handy link on the right side) and it is sad. But it's poetic and moving and inspirational too, in a sometimes-life-sucks kind of way.

Coincidentally, a good friend of mine just returned from a weekend at "The Farm" where she got to meet Ina May Gaskin - celebrated midwife and revolutionary. She told my friend that the numbers of maternal deaths in childbirth have doubled since 1980 - something way worth researching more. 


Jennifer said...

Hmm.. I wonder if that's at least partially due to all the elective c-sections that are allowed (sometimes encouraged)? I had an emergency C for my son, a v-bac for the second, but I'm amazed at the number of women that I know that have had a C-section and there was no emergency situation involved. It makes me wonder if they are fully aware of the greater risks of a C-section? Or, if C-sections have become so common that people assume the risk is negligible?

Shannon said...

My personal opinion is that c-sections have become so routine that many people do not consider them "surgery" - and certainly not one that is potentially dangerous. I recently heard a midwife lamenting how easily some women choose to have a c-section, saying that she wonders if they realize part of the surgery involves sitting your bladder on your stomach and then putting it back - never to be really the same again? It was something like that anyway, I haven't had a c-section... much less been in the room for one or performed one (!) so I couldn't say for sure.

Many physicians are offering elective c-sections for first-time mothers for non-medical reasons. Which is a sad statement to me that there is a demand for it in the market. I actually read an article in the ACOG newsletter a while back that listed out the arguments/reasons for doing an elective c-section. Among the various risks of vaginal birth it listed were loss of vaginal muscle strength and... (I'm not making this up)... loss of sensation for the *male* in intercourse. I realize there are risks to vaginal birth but I was stunned to see that listed!

I think there's a big divide amongst Hollywood celebrities in this area right now too... a lot of the vocal ones seem to be radically to one side or the other. Either they schedule c-sections because they "like to plan" (paraphrasing Christina Aguilera here...) or they have homebirths and make documentaries (Business of Being Born.) Not a lot of middle ground. In the past, I've heard bad things about certain labor-inducing drugs too and their connection to maternal demise and problems reporting that out.

Anyways... none of this really has anything to do with the blog in the OP. I've been reading more of the older stuff he posted. He writes beautifully of the grief process, I think. I'd love to meet him one day but that makes me seem a bit like a creepy blog-stalker, doesn't it? LOL!